We Are Who We Are

"We are who we are,”

A line of one of my current ongoing tv series good doctor that suddenly become a jolt of inspiration to reflect, to write once again.

We are who we are and indeed we are all different.

One very introvert and need her own space, one never runs out of the so called social battery.

One likes to cook and bake and paint, one, on the other hand, likes to do math and statistic and accounting.

One is very practical and energy conscious, the other one very in the moment and living life to the fullest.

These differences, it sometimes feel like the barrier of us getting along.

It sometimes feel like with each differences, the further away we become from creating a long-lasting friendship filled with “unconditional” love.

Sometimes too, these differences create a heavy burden of expectation.

Expectation to be slightly less different, expectation to change who you are for the sake of being “belong” in a group of people, expectation to dim your light just to make others more comfortable with who you are.

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last 6 months of your life travelling?

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last 5 months of your life staying at home playing monopoly with your family

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last 4 months of your life filling the adrenaline junkie’s bucket list?

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last 3 months of your life doing social work in an orphanage?

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last 2 months of your life learning how to play the violin?

So what if you’re the kind of person to spend the last month of your life pursuing aggressive treatment for the hope of spending more time doing your whatever unfinished business?

We all only got one life to live and therefore however you want to spend it, what dream to pursue, what passion to follow is your own rights to determine.

And it’s not only about those last days on earth you know,

So what if you’re the kind of ESTJ who lead your group as the go-getter, goal setter, sometimes a bit annoyingly bossy but you get things done?

So what if you're the kind of INTJ who lead your group as the expert who really knows your stuff but couldn't care less if the problem is not in your field of expertise and annoyingly demand others to be as good as you are? 

So what if you're the kind of ESFP who lead your group is a more "carpe diem" style and annoyingly loud and kept on being the life of the party even in the wrong situation?

So what if you're the kind of INTP who lead your group towards new innovation and annoyingly can't stop to learn and seek more knowledge regardless of the times of the day?

So the hell what?

We are all different and created like so for a purpose. 

We might not know it yet, we might still be in search, but whoever you are, you belong somewhere. 

And if people demand you to change who you are?

Kindly listen to them, always try to be kind and change for the better but if the expectation is to change the core of who you really are?

I'd say f*ck them and shine beautifully in your own way