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Who Are Your Friends, really?

Who are your friends?
Those that have known you since childhood but now live miles away?
Indeed, those people know what you like and what you don't - including your weird habit when you sleep. However, do you know that they never think about you when they do their daily activities? They only remembered you when they need something - which get less and less frequent now that you live apart from each other.

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Those who you're in the same class with and spend hours in the same room working on a group assignment?
Indeed, those people are ones that talk to you the most on daily basis for now. However, do you know their life outside your class stuff work? Do you know what they do in their spare time? Will you even keep in touch after you graduate several short years from now?

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Those people who you're in the same church community with? Those that claim that they should be the place for you to tell your deepest secret and ask questions about this life? Even if you have one, are they really your friends? Do they spend their happy moments with you? Do they also tell you about their problem? Or they are just merely being there because they feel like they have to listen to you in the name of diakonia?

Are they all your friend?
How many people can you call "friend"?
Then, the bigger problem is how many people actually see you as your friends?
Friends talk about each other behind your back, you know that? Is that the right thing to do? But that's the common doing, isn't it?

So, what are the bases for calling someone your friend?
How much should you tolerate each and every single thing they do that are wrong in your eyes?
How much should someone give - in terms of their time, energy, and all else - for you in order for you to see them as a friend?
How many days, months, or even years should someone spend knowing each other before someone get the status of a friend?

What do the word "friend" even mean?
Not enemy?
Acquittance?
Someone to share your life with?
Someone to please you when you need?

Can you live without one?

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Got some friends in your mind now? Those who you've forgotten in the midst of your own self interest? Take this moment, 20-30 minutes to call them and ask them how they're doing. You don't want to loose a good friend because if you're lucky enough to find one, you cannot depend on luck to retain one.

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