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The Fear That Comes With "Goodbye(s)"

"inspired by couple of teardrops from dearest friends"

As the clouds begin to darken and it's as if the sun is losing the fight, I can't help but wonder.
As half of 2018 already passed and the next month coming, I can't help but wonder.
As the words spread, realisation hit, and people reacted in all different manner, I can't help but wonder.
I wonder why on earth do we have to experience goodbyes with the people we love in life - even if its temporary.
As a matter of fact, there are some people who must face goodbyes more than their fair share.
But then again, who are we to understand what's fair and what's not
Does it ever get easier over time? Will we ever get used to it? 
"It" being saying goodbye and facing all different kind of fear. 

Fear of being forgotten
For what its worth, this one fear is always there whether we admit it or not because we simply never know. We can forget them, they can forget us. Even over the promise of "don't worry, nothing will change, we'll keep in touch", you know that things will not be the same. 

Fear of being helpless 
When you are far from someone, there's nothing you can do when they need immediate help or shoulders to cry on, or the moral support of being assured that you hear them and their cries. Also on the other hand, you don't have them by your side - in literal meaning - do you.

Fear of being replaced, perhaps? 
As people tend to find substitutes things that they can't have. Us to, will be replaced sooner or later. Talking about being being irreplaceable will require a whole new post so let's just not go there for now.

Fear of having to face the feeling of missing someone so bad
These kind of feeling kill the bones, you know. Sometimes I can't understand why the universe let people feel these kind of feelings : loss, sadness, and sorrow. Yes, they'll still be looking at the same side of the moon with us and can be seen through their social media but its not actually the same with spending time with them and being featured in their postings, is it?

And there are other kind of fear that no words can explain.

Can I ask you a question?
How often do we part ways with loved ones in the company of tears and heart break? 
Which one of this fears filled your heart as the tears stream down your face?
Maybe for this reason, we shall not get too attached to anything.
Those who doesn't care and doesn't let their heart love doesn't have to face these fears.
But then again, sometimes it just happened, right?
Some memories, some people, and some moments are just so meaningful it breaks all barriers your heart has built.
Then maybe, we should indeed be grateful if we have things that made saying goodbyes difficult.
We also need to learnt to make the most out of the moments we have and cherish every second of it - never ever take anything for granted.

To all of you reading this,
in spite of all the separation and goodbyes  - that must happen for a better future - you will all be okay. 
Sometimes, goodbyes are good and even some are necessary for them and for you. 
It's part of life, part of the growing process, and part of us. 
You got nothing to be afraid of, everyone's been there and they got through it, so will you.
Life goes on no matter what and whatever meant to be, will be.
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