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Overrated


Have you ever wonder whether honesty is overrated?
I mean, you can't always be honest, right?
At least not 100%, wait let's pull it back a bit.
What does honesty mean to you?
Letting everything out in the open?
Saying everything that you think and feel including all the prejudices?
If you're not 100% honest you're not really honest, don't you think?
The problem is,
Some of those honesty could hurt people you know.
And they say, what you don't know can't hurt you.
So do you really need to? Be honest all the time?
Part of growing up is to better your filter so that you're not brutally honest like a little kid.
You know what, those people that you think are nice,
It's not that they never think of bad things about other people especially when they're mad, they just know better to shut up until it passes.
If anyone tells you every single ugly things that are going on in her mind with no filter at all, you'll realise that she's no difference than a despicable human being.
Which is exactly why, most of the time, we keep it all inside.
We tell no one, we fake it till we make it, and we don't trust in honesty.
Everyone only let you see what they want you to see or hear or feel.
The things that we don't say too - the secrets - are what made us who we are.

So you know what else is overrated in my opinion?
You got it, feelings and emotions.
They totally have been credited way more than what they actually deserve
When you think about it, feelings are just feelings, they are not that important, are they?
I know it's difficult to ignore your feelings, but once in a while, especially when it gets overwhelming;
That's when you feel like dying inside and just simply tired
Switch your attention off towards your feelings, go use your head more.
Be rational!
Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't
But at least,
feelings - that are overly given attention too - they can drive you insane, hopeless, and do stupid things.
The head, on the other hand, at least it knows what's true and what's not.
True : God doesn't give anything - not problems nor trouble - bigger than your capabilities.
Also true : whatever it is, your feelings will fade eventually over time, all problems have an end, this too shall pass.

 so yeah, those are the 2 overrated things from me
messy it is, but so is life :)
cheers!

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  1. Vincenzio Evan22 March 2019 at 23:34

    Indeed, without the existence of feelings and emotions, life could be a lot more efficient. But as we all know, "Science is the reason we live. Art is the reason we keep on living." Logic and intelligence power our lives, make our lives easier. We can use our heads to go through the hardest and harshest emotional and social problems. But does it matter?

    What is the purpose of life? Just to live?

    Living for the sake of living just seems so shallow and simplistically meaningless. Sometimes, letting your emotions flood out is a good thing, makes you feel alive; that is life, is it not?

    Whether life has meaning or not is every person's own decision. But, to live rationally and systematically every single day of your life, wouldn't that be tiring in its own way? Looking at the world from a perspective where everything is boringly unsurprising.

    Feelings are not overrated. Life is.

    Life only has so much to offer, but it is our feelings that give it meaning.

    P.S. I do realize how hypocritical it is to write this comment with a rational mind, but that's just how experience has taught me. To learn and get things done are two important tasks that we humans all have, but they are only to help us improve, leading to a more enjoyable life journeyed through emotions.

    Thank you for writing!

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    1. Anonymous22 March 2019 at 23:47

      Well they do say that the life of stupid people are happier than those that think a lot..

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  2. Anonymous5 April 2019 at 10:23

    "God doesn't give problems to people beyond their capabilities." And I thought I was reading a well thought-out, rational think piece. Until you dropped that line out of nowhere, notwithstanding any legible mental correlations aside from you trying to trivialize actual problems suffered by actual people; depression, anxiety, emptiness, and other mental issues, by providing a subjective empty platitude that amounts to nothing more but "life sucks, but God lol so I can't complain."

    The people who killed themselves because they felt life couldn't provide them any more meaning weren't weaklings who succumbed to their temptations when they could've just "turned to God". If it helped, they would've been alive today.

    The patients on life support suffering from flesh-eating tumors didn't ask for their moms to pull the plug because they weren't strong enough. They did so because nature was just unfair to them and thus they had to endure this disease that no man should ever have to go through - if an all-loving God actually did foresee these events and put a limit on humanity's suffering so that a threshold was never broken. The sole fact that these poor souls chose to end their lives is reason enough that they can't take it anymore.

    And we don't even have to argue about the semantics of a God-given "mental resilience". If you learned the about the subtle changes in the brain's chemical and electrical makeup that resulted in clinical depression it's really easy to see
    how vague the existence of such a resilience is in the first place. As easy as it is for us to trigger suicidal thoughts on a subject is to trigger the opposite; never-before experienced heights of happiness, positivity, and warmth. All it takes is a 20 dollar pill. But you'd probably be against that wouldn't you?

    Finally, sure, let's say that all the most horrendous of tragedies can be lived through. Hey, that's why we have survivor stories, right? What if I told you that for every Christian wife speaking out at a Church podium of how she lived through being molested and is now a fully-functioning adult (with regular PTSD attacks every now and then) is a Catholic man who left the faith and is now a sexual deviant because his pastor told him to strip? He's lucky if he turned out gay (although, to be fair, that'd probably not sit to well with you). Worse if he became a shut-in incapable of experiencing human intimacy because whatever happened in that confession booth was so indescribable that it permanently fried his brains.

    So yeah, you're right. Emotions ARE overrated. Because if you actually set aside those biases and objectively take a look around you, it'd take more of you to write down something so ignorant. We all suffer. And sometimes, there's no one to help. The least we can be presented with is the notion that we weren't strong enough
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    that we weren't trying our best.

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    1. Vincenzio Evan5 April 2019 at 19:24

      As much as what you said is true, I must disagree with such ideology. Simply nitpicking cases here and there without looking at the big picture does not make up a logical and rational flow of how this world works.

      It has been clear from the very start that this article talks about the general idea of how "normies" think and how they should improve by following rational thoughts. Many (or most, idk) social people tend to easily complain and claim that their lives are the hardest, consciously causing drama and subconsciously desiring to be the center of attention without giving a care about the world. The purpose of this article is to rid the self-centeredness of those egomaniacs, and not to talk about diseases and/or cure preventions.

      Suicidals aren't weaklings? Life has no meaning; everyone knows that. There's not really any point in life. If you die, you die. Everything you have would be lost and no one really knows what comes afterwards. "So why live?" is not the question made by suicidals. We ALL ask that at some point in our lives. The reason most people are still alive doesn't have to be "to still enjoy life" or "to love my family". Fear of death is enough; and yes, that means we humans are all weaklings. But those who choose to die have chosen to not want to confront life anymore, may it be due to stress, anxiety, trauma, or physical diseases. To abandon life which we can never attain by our own selves, is that not what you would call foolish? As long as one is alive, potentials and chances still exist. But once death kicks in, all of those vanish. Then to disown one's own life instead of continuing the struggle for greater heights, what is that if not the weakest of the weak?

      Finally, is it really that God does not want to help? Or is it one's own stupidity and self-hatred that prevents God from aiding during many crucial events in life and thus leading to those insufferably disadvantageous conditions? Now don't get me wrong: all humans are stupid. That's pretty much the reason why we're all here on Earth and not in Heaven already. But the problem with many of us humans, I believe, is extremely similar to the case of the Israelites: they're stupid. They don't think about what has already happened (cause) and what's going to happen (consequence), but simply about what to do at the current given moment. Not so bad of an ideology, indeed, but stupid. We humans really love to complain when things don't go our way, not realizing it was our own selves that caused it in the first place. No human is perfect, and so we all must continuously strive for growth. This means that we all make mistakes in our entire lives, and many of them during our younger years. Obviously, at some point of our lives, we would do something extremely stupid without realizing it, causing our lives to turn upside down. But is that really a reason to deny the possibility of going back up? Is there really any "certainty" in life? Even if it is claimed to be certain that one would never be able to leave the deep, dark chasm, is that reason enough to stop the struggle? If so, then wouldn't that be what you call weak? Even the foolish king in the parable of Lazarus kept on struggling to save as many lives as possible when he's been sent to hell.

      All in all, it's not that what you said is untrue, but it is not the full truth. And, it is certainly not a happy way to live life.

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    2. Lazykittenm30 April 2019 at 05:02

      Anon, i think you must have seen a lot of stomach churning cases of people that ended their life due to depression and similiar issues, but it has been said by her that God does not give the problem beyond our capabilities. Therefore it can said that what you have described is not coming from the God himself as much as it is coming from the humanity themselves pressuring against individuals that otherwise need help. Furthermore, as the previous replier already stated before, the scope of discussion within her (gabriella) is none other than her daily life in where she rarely encountered any suicidial tendencies from her colleagues or relatives. So yah, you better learn 6A framework from Dr. KC Chan to train your scoping and framing in the context better.

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  3. Lazykittenm30 April 2019 at 04:47

    In the class :

    Rational : Abby (records all the lectures, always on-time, and never have any absences)

    Emotional : Timmeh (only listen to the lectures, on-time, but usually breathing heavily after taking the mandatory stairclimb, and like to absent.

    Outside of the class :

    Rational : Timmeh

    Emotional : Gabeh

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